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21.10.13

if you're sick of me whining about babies, this post is not for you.


A photo of me and my husband, since this is my blog after all. I think this photo depicts this moment in our lives. Mostly happy (and really tall.) A little lost in this stage of life. Married for almost 6.5 years, no kids, done with school, working full time, a little house to call our own. I guess lost might be the wrong word, but I just never imagined it'd be the two of us for so long! That is a wonderful and heartbreaking thing, my friends.

19 comments:

Laraine Eddington said...

I have thought a lot about this quote I found for Callie's funeral talk by William Barclay. "Endurance is not just the ability to bear a hard thing, but to turn it into glory."
You are enduring well Kate. I don't think you have to feel endlessly patient, or not feel the sting of thoughtless comments, but to go forward with faith. I'm so proud of you.

Emily said...

Why anyone feels the need to give advice on how to conceive a child is beyond me. Just....
You are lovely as is your house. Hope is a beautiful thing, keep on hoping. <3

Natalie said...

<3

Cambra said...

my fingers and toes and heart strings are crossed for you friend. and my freezer is constantly stocked with gelato and mango sorbet should the need ever arise.

Mel said...

I won't tell you how to feel about it, but you are not alone. Hopefully there's comfort in that if nowhere else.

mad white woman said...

I hope, I hope, I hope...

Jules said...

Um your house is amazing??

I'm not sure what's up with society and it's "advice culture." When I talk about my problems, I just want someone to listen, not solve them. That's how I remember feeling after my miscarriage - just listen, let me cry, pat my back, don't speak.

Tahnee said...

you guys look great!
your house looks amazing!
and hugs :) !!

The Webbs said...

that mighty soul is preparing for a grand entrance. i cant wait to meet baby lines im thinking sooner than later. love you two, you both are beautiful beautiful souls.

lauren said...

well, the good news is that when you do have that baby, it's going to be REALLY good looking.
love you, friend. you are so brave and strong and i admire you. and yes! you can (and should) feel however you want to feel about it. unwanted advice is so...unwanted.
thinking of you! and truly, you'll have the cutest baby to put in that lovely house.

Traci Butler said...

Gosh, I sure love you Kate. And golly, what a cute house you have! Will you come visit again? I owe you some cash that was mysteriously left on my fridge! We can hit the track, do our our imaginary laps (even though you are a real runner now) get a quarter pop (that aren't even a quarter now) go for a drive like when times were easy and we only had to worry about our weekend plans... then talk about things that are crappy. No advice, just crappy thinks ;) haha!

Chelsea said...

I'm wishing I could see your nailbeds from here, cause I bet they be lookin pretty fine these days...

LOVE YOU!

Delaney Bigelow said...

you guys are the cutest tall married people. dumb comments from people who think they know better are frustrating. just know that so many people are rooting for you guys and wish only the best.

mary elizabeth said...

oh kate, these are the words straight from my heart too. married 7 years, no kiddos, just kind of in this weird in between everything space. i think a lot of people try to understand the pain that comes with fertility issues, but only those who have experienced it truly know the depth of the pain and sadness. but also, i've found in our struggle there is so much that is beautiful too.

hoping for some happy news coming your direction.

Jeremy,Jennie said...

Ah Kate, I hope you know that Jeremy and I both think the world of you and Landon. There just aren't better people. We were lucky to get to know you both better in Idaho. You're beautiful as ever (and you know that I love that you're tall:) and your house is so super cute!!

Mallory Camille said...

i think so many people are invested in your story. i sure am. praying and hoping for you my friend.

kELLY said...

I have a kid. So I know it's totally different for me, but being in my third pregnancy in the last 8 months and not knowing what will happen... I resonate with this post. Especially the fourth paragraph. It's so hard bc people don't know what to say and they want to help, but people are just the worst sometimes. I don't want you to hear I know how you feel from me about wanting a child, because I know you know that I already have one and so it's like, duh, leave me alone. BUT i know what it's like to long for a baby. and that sucks. and to try not to get your hopes up or be anxious constantly during the day. and to feel a hole in your heart. I hurt and weep for you and hope one day you can experience motherhood. love you! and i miss you on insta. but I'm glad you blogged. I hope I'm not one of those people just now ^ and I wanted to email you all of this instead, but I couldn't find it.
and I'm not happy about the word verification, k? ;)

Kelli said...

Kate. You are such a great example to me. I love that you are real. Life is HARD sometimes and unfair sometimes and just sad sometimes. You are able to express that yet still let your sweet light shine and cheer someone up. I know the words...patience and relax and lucky are annoying for you, and rightly so! So instead I'll tell you, you are beautiful, strong, amazingly unique and one of my dearest friends and examples. I love your long hair and cozy home! Miss you guys!

Talia said...

praying for you and your future family!